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Can a Naturally Submissive Man Dominate a Cougar?

By their very nature, cougars are adventurous, confident women who know exactly what they want in the bedroom. Their age and experience gives them a natural superiority that is attractive to young guys, which makes them more likely to be the dominant force in a relationship.

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"Dominating can be an exciting and fulfilling role."

But what happens when you feel like being the dominant one for a change? You’re a milfaholic, so you don’t want to scare your cougars away — but that doesn’t mean you can’t change things up a little from time to time.

In actual fact, the adventurous nature of the average Aussie Milf means she’ll probably be excited at the thought of being the submissive one for a change.

What Does Domination Involve?

While there is a social aspect of domination, it is completely separate from the sexual aspect of the premise. When mature dating, your older woman might take a leading role in the relationship generally, and there’s nothing stopping you from switching roles when it comes to bedroom fun.

Yes, you might be used to allowing your cougar make decisions such as where to go for dinner or control of finances, but this doesn’t stop you from taking charge of your sex life.

Perhaps you want to be physically dominant, or maybe you want your cougar to follow your every command. Whatever you’re looking to achieve, there’s a good chance that your cougar will be receptive.

If you want to take things further, you could extend your dominance to other areas of your relationship — even if this isn’t the natural order of things. You’d need to speak with your partner in order to establish some ground rules, and you’d both need to make a commitment to stick to your temporary roles.

Why Do Cougars Like to Be Dominated?

The average cougar takes control of issues every day — whether at work or at home. Occasionally, it’s nice for big decisions to be given to someone else. And occasionally, an older woman will find this a real turn on.

If you can get the balance right, there’s no reason why dominating your cougar can’t be a regular event.

Cougars have been around the block a few times, and they know exactly what they want. Sometimes, they’ve been stuck in boring and monotonous relationships, and they don’t want to waste a second more on dull and predictable sex.

Being dominated is often a new experience, which can be exciting and fulfilling.

So, this combination of experience, bad experiences and generally being in charge of major decisions in life makes the average cougar very excited about the prospect of being dominated.

Pro Tip: Be Aware!

Suddenly becoming the dominant one in your relationship will probably make your partner suspicious and unreceptive. You’ll need to discuss your thoughts frankly, and agree on when and where your dominant role will apply.

I’m Nervous About Being Dominant. Where Do I Start?

Learning how to be dominant in a relationship is something you should approach gradually. For example, you might want to start with a little role play. It’s often harder to act out of character if you assume a completely new one.

Start small, and build you way up to dominance gradually.

You don’t have to limit your dominance to the bedroom, however. Try little things such as telling your cougar when she needs to be home, or who she can talk to while at work.

When you reach the sexual stage of your new relationship, you could try a little gentle bondage or S&M. Take things slowly, and keep communicating with your partner throughout.

Of course, there is a chance that one or both of you will be just too uncomfortable with the new status quo. Some people are just naturally inclined to be one way or the other. If you’re a natural submissive, you might struggle with the role of the dominant one.

Conversely, a cougar who likes being in control might fight back against changing roles.

Beginner’s Pro Tip:

If you’re new to being dominant in a relationship, take baby steps. And if you’re not enjoying the process, just stop! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being the submissive person in the relationship.

Whether you’re looking for sexual gratification or a bigger role in the major decisions in your relationship, you really can dominate your cougar if you want to.

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