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How to Get Back in the Game When Long Term Relationships Fail

These days, one in three Aussie marriages end in divorce, leaving many women stranded alone and uncertain in middle age. All over the country, you'll find Aussie Milfs in their 40s who aren't sure how to dip their toes back in the dating game.

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It's easy to forget the do's and don'ts of dating. But it doesn't have to be like that!

As anyone who has found themselves suddenly single in their 40s will testify, that's not always easy to do. But here's the weird thing: when you start to date, you'll usually find a world of new possibilities and you're extra experience will be a huge plus.

If you can get over the initial anxiety and fear, modern dating offers cougars an amazing variety of things to try. So let's run through a quick guide to getting your dating game back on track.

1. Find Ways to Build Your Confidence Before You Start Dating

When marriages fall apart, it's only natural to have a period of deflation and low confidence. The trick is to find a way to spark yourself into life again so that you're ready to square up to younger guys on the dating scene.

Pro Tip:

The first thing to do is buy a gym membership. Get down to your local centre, buy some exercise gear, take some classes and get in shape. Not only will you feel physically better, but gyms are a great place to meet younger guys or girls and to show off your tight mature body.

2. Don't Devalue Yourself or Feel Out of the Loop

Another problem that women in their 30s and 40s have when they re-enter the modern dating world (often for the first time) is a feeling of insecurity. They might feel out of place, outdated, and generally removed from the world of younger singles. But that's a big mistake.

Let's say you're a foxy older woman of 42 who is hungry for physical companionship and you come from a South Asian background. Don't ever feel that younger guys will overlook you. All over Australia, men are seeking Asian Milfs (and all sorts of Milfs) for erotic fun. The worst thing to do is devalue your sexiness or feel like you're not the type for guys in your area.

3. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone as Much as Possible

Right after breaking out of a long-term relationship, it's also essential to assert your sense of freedom and get out in the hectic dating world. Don't always head to the same old bars with friends or rely on blind dates orchestrated by your mates. Try to be more liberated and unpredictable.

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Why? When you suddenly find yourself on your own, you need to jolt yourself into action. You need the shock of meeting new people and having new experiences to rediscover your original self.

It's also vital to meet as many new people as possible to broaden your horizons. There's a diverse community of singles out there, so explore what's on offer. You're never too old to discover something new.

Pro Tip:

Get involved with the online dating scene as much as you can. You might not know it, but online forums are incredible places to discover different types of people, including all kinds of sexy younger guys looking to chat to Milfs.

4. Don't Be Afraid to Take Control

When you first start dating younger guys, you might take a while to realise it, but your new partners aren't the same as a middle aged husband. And you aren't just a normal old spouse, either.

When you re-enter the dating game in your 30s or 40s, you're going to be seen as a sexual expert, an authority figure, and - possibly - a sugar mommy or something like that.

So don't be afraid to play up to that image. Take on a new role, be the cougar to somebody's cub and discover a new, more confident you. In no time, you'll be thriving in the dating world and you'll be well and truly back in the game.

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